Relationships Woes

I HAD TO EDIT THIS I WROTE THIS 1-17-21

It seems like the longer we stay in quarantine the more people in relationships are finding ways of going against the grain. Boredom is on the rise love seems to be lacking and patience is out of the window.

I've been saying that whoever is the passive one in the relationship will be the one to let their balls drop. And by that I mean being able to put their foot down and say enough is enough.

Now this energy won't go over well with your lover boo, bae, or platonic relationships because people have habits and habits is the main thing that is hard to break. Some may take the change in your behavior as an attack on them when it's truly about your purpose as well. I mean its funny how we talk about love and people think it's suppose to be a submerging of the twins all the time. i.e lovers card in tarot

When love is freedom and not bondage, not a cycle of chaos, war, and confusion. My friend that is the opposite and that is hate. And most people don't even understand their own actions that causes confusion in the relationship dynamics they have with people or partners. And that is were we the people are stuck while at the same time wanting to fall more deep in love with the person we are with.

In these trying times the grass will always look greener on the other side. Most people say it's because it's fake, but I also believe there are people who are attending to their own garden. Not focused on the well being of others because they also have work to do because they've worked so hard to become the being they are today. And those people who are going through relationship woes are the ones who can destroy another persons garden because their to busy complaining of their own.

Because love isn't always about being in a relationship with another person. To me it's about being vulnerable with yourself, mastering you, learning your own weaknesses, knowing when to ask for help, and learning new boundaries. We are getting to old be carrying around the baggage of our ancestors, and loved ones that worked so hard for us to have the freedom we have . To be complaining about the same old things that destroyed mankind reasons to love.

No human on earth is designed to be alone, you don't have to be in a relationship but there are friendships that feel like love. It's many ways to experience love outside of being physically touched and binding yourself to a relationship when you haven't even open yourself up to the idea of loving you. Now

I'm not saying we all have been taught to know the value of our self, but the collective of people are waking up.

And I for one along with the world of humans living and breathing all across the globe are tired of creating the cycles of damaged souls and hurt beings. I mean it's easy to hurt someone, but lately people find it hard to share the love. AND THAT SH** SUCKS!

NOW LET"S GET INTO THIS READING!

The holidays came around and y'all hard headed a** didn't listen to nothing I said in them readings. It seems like y'all armed y'all self with the advice I gave at the time and was ready for war because your loved ones, kids, and lovers was getting on your last nerves. Outside of whats going on with the world this quarantine was suppose to make us better people to see how we could give back to those we rarely give to.

And no I'm not talking about money for some maybe so. But how the roles switched for housewives, for the working class to adjust to their homes, to appreciate the beauty of what they created, and to find time to be at peace even though the world is in chaos. But, because we haven't even worked through our traumas that life has gave us we found another reason to avoid doing the work. Our hyper selfish actions kicked in and that's when the fights started.

Because mommy was finally able to have some time off she felt this is the time for her to have some free time off from the kids. So, the requirements of the parent/spouse whether they're your kids or not, to step it up a notch was a hard pill to swallow. And for the men who rarely go out that stay in the house waiting like a dog for his old lady/man to get home caused problems when he changed the plans. Now keep in mind these roles can be reversed, you just put who do what there.

Parents wanting to spend time with their kids even though they are grown caused confusion because life was still happening for them. You know the older you get you start to appreciate more from life well not everybody because its some people who still act like they acted when they were 20. Let me focus before this blog go off track. But the old seeing how quickly they could be taking out made them re-prioritize the relationships they have with their kids. (sucks teeth)

Now for those of you who have those codependent relationships with your parents it seems like y'all relationship was tested the most this year. Because of the lack of boundaries that exist in your relationship with each other. So, those typical vent conversations that you have with your mom/dad about your boo got real trying this year.

Because we the collective was bored and trying to find more things to do that those over worried parents, siblings, and friends relationships became quite intoxicating real quick. The beauty of it all a lot of people go to say a lot of things they have been wanting to say. The part that sucked is because majority of the fall outs that happen showed that people in relationships don't know how to fight fair.

Especially when it's someone you love because when your so focused on how someone loves you, you never stop to think about how much it takes from that person to love you. I mean love is putting up with some sh** you normally wouldn't put up with but without respect, boundaries, understanding, honesty, transparency, comprehension, and patience over time that love won't mean a thing to you anymore.

You'll be ready to pack your things up and never look back while in the meantime everything do to try to emotional escape from them they will always be on your mind. It's funny how relationships are perceived that being around each other all the time is love. No ma'am it's not baby, Divine wasn't playing games with all our asses this year.

Testing our strength, changing the things we value, and replacing things while creating memories we value more than any money.

I wrote all this to say to remember to get to your corner. Life doesn't need the extra ra ra all the time being combative isn't cute. Emotional understanding is better when your able to speak and say I don't know what is going on. We grown, going off and having temper tantrums ain't gone cut it no more. Get it together baby because its a friend, spouse, family member, co worker, or child that is sick of your shit..

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