Break up to make up is all we do first you love me then you hate me like a fool for you. (THE STYLISTICS) This blog is brung to you by old school fish in a Cadillac sipping dark liquor while rolling weed up and hollering at kids. Girl don’t ask where I been because y’all know the answer on YouTube. Y’all know I have to get the monthly videos out, by the way you could go scrub a couple videos, like, and subscribe.
But I’m here anyway I’m always right on time. After doing several readings I am come to the term that a lot of people suffer with detachment and abandonment issues. Now hear me out the reason I say this because people think people who suffer with abandonment issues are people who will always stick with you doing your bad times. When it’s the complete opposite some people will leave at the first sign of any discomfort because that stems from their own insecurities or emotional trauma.
I mean this is nothing, but one think piece feels free to leave a comment and tell me how you think or feel about this. The reason I said all this is because the holidays are coming up and a lot of people are preparing to go around family members they haven’t seen in a long time or dealing with downright loved ones who just aren’t the best. That rush of energy to make sure you feel loved and showered with gifts and appreciation is taking its toll on people.
And let’s not add in the children who aren’t growing up in the same households. I mean this is when proposals are at all time high and loved ones seek to really know your business while seasonal depression is right around the corner. Now you sprinkle in a little of dysfunction, childhood trauma, and family conflict you couples have a lot of damage to deal with when you get back home or in the home. I mean the holidays are supposed to be fun and not a buzz kill its where we sit around and give thanks upon a person’s love language.
Now let’s not forget the issues you had going on before all these holidays decided to happen, I mean it was problems still under the surface. This is not the time to be getting mad about burnt macaroni and cornbread because you’re mad your sister is egomaniacal little cunt. A little too personal but hey we have been there. So, know your expecting you lover to take one for the team when it comes to family matters because in a minute it will all be over.
Well, its not quite actually it’s kind of emotionally unfair because the energy exchange isn’t even because you know if your partner were to do the same to you, you would spazz. I know your probably reading this confused because if you got this far your probably like WTF does this have to do with makeup to breakup. A LOT KATIE, A LOT! I mean family, holidays, and depending on your relationship status has a lot to do with it.
If you always makeup to breakup with your lover and your planning on showing up to the dinner with them just be prepared for judgmental eyes. Now let’s get into the blog post.
COUPLES WHO BREAKUP AND GET BACK TOGETHER
· STOP TELLING PEOPLE YOUR BUSINESS BECAUSE THE MINUTE YOU DECIDE TO TAKE THAT LOVER BACK, BE PREPARED FOR THOSE SAME PEOPLE WHO YOU TOLD ALL YOUR PARTNER BUSINESS TO GONE BE THE SAME ONES SIDE EYEING.
Anger can be a powerful tool especially when it is channeled properly. But when you don’t know how to control your anger and it gets the best of you to the point you start flying off at the mouth and telling all your busines just know those same people who live for the drama wont be their for the applause. And another thing stop putting y’all family members in your business that’s your family not theirs.
Now depending on the relationship your partner has with your family and they do something totally egregious and they side with you not taking this person back baby that’s on you. Honey as family we or others are supposed to have your back but to the point of where you are making me feel and look like a damn fool. No ma’am you have to go my sanity is way more valuable than your love life.
And family learn to cut they ass off right along with the spouse’s safes you a hell of less a headache. Why would you want to sit their listen to your child, sister, brother, or cousin keep going through the same thing. It may sound mean but if you value the relationship with them you can politely refer them to a counselor or tell them you’re not equipped for this issue.
Tough love is better than no love at all and it’s a form of a boundary because I feel like the cord should be cut between adults and children at a certain age. Because if you’re always playing conductor in their life when will you have to time to live your life. If they want to live in confusion that is their option not yours it doesn’t make you a bad friend, mom, dad, or sibling some people just love the way they love.
I mean love is a tricky subject because we accept the love, we desire so sitting there trying to preach to somebody about what they are worth versus showing them is another thing. I mean we all have different lenses to life and maybe the way someone sees things may not be where your perspective lies. That doesn’t make them a bad person, it actually grants you clarity to see where they are in their endeavors with life.
You save a lot of time by listening and not being so emotionally reactive will show you where you child gets it from. I mean every family is different because some people only think family is valued because they have been through a lot together versus overcoming a lot together. You know how many family members think you blood because yall had bad times together. Like WTH that is a trauma bond nothing more or less.
I know that’s a hard pill to swallow but its facts why do you think a person in your life is attracted to the relationship they are in because it mirrors back to them a love they want or need. Either to teach them how to grow up or stay stuck. I mean love is a tricky concept by the way because it is energy that is to be submitted to not controlled. That is why most people who seek always feel like they can never find it, so they settle in the most situation where people who let them be them because they are equally as messed up.
I mean you know the old cliché saying you don’t know them, I love them, and my favorite is that I don’t want to start over. Yes, they should grow up and stop acting like kids and get they sh** together starting with trust. I mean you don’t see how the trust is leaving the relationship when you would rather run to a parent, sibling, cousin, or friend versus your partner.
I mean yall basically telling each other that you only love your partner enough in certain areas that the minute things get to emotionally intense your out. You know my old saying if we are doing the nasty and spending time together it shouldn’t be anything, I can’t ask you. I mean you risk yourself every time you have sex with a person whether it be with a condom or without.
I mean think about their emotional state, mental state, and financial state at some point in time you are walking away with some unwarranted energy. That’s something you should think about.
So, the next time you decide to call it quits just think about what you are teaching each other. Y’all actually teaching each other to live without one or the other so when you are sitting in counseling or talking to people saying he changed and they saying you’ve changed it’s because the time apart did it. The time y’all spent arguing and fighting to get away from each other could’ve granted you the energy of getting to know each a little better.
Keep all this in mind when you decided to walk out and come back with the person you gave up on. As well you hurted they hurted as well and those people who had to pick up pieces ain’t gone be so fund of you coming back in to destroy a person you don’t know anymore.
Tread lightly but also come right when somebody giving you another shot at love.
TATA NOW! BUENOS NOCHES
IF YOU LOOKING FOR A HOLIDAY BOO CALL ME! DEPOSITS REQUIRED AND THE COOK GOTTA KNOW HOW TO COOK. DON'T BE TAKING ME OVER TO SOMEBODY HOUSE THAT DONT PUT HAMCOCKS IN THEY GREENS AND KNOW HOW TO MAKE HOT WATER CORNBREAD! OTHER THAN THAT IF YOU TRYING TO GIVE THIS LOVE THING A SHOT GOOD LUCK CAUSE I BE ON SOME SISTER WITH THE TRAVELING PANTS SHIT.