Hyper Femininity

Hyper femininity is a thing and most of the times it is labeled as toxic. For me I’m trying to stray away from the term toxic, one because its over played and two it is often misused. It’s tricky when we label people and things toxic because of lack of information they have to grow into being better people. Now y’all know I don’t believe everyone can change but if you can change, you can change the things around you.

We kinda talked about this before in blog post linked below but I didn’t, write about it in a more in-depth terms.

https://www.phuckyoanxiety.com/post/the-new-age-feminine-energy

The collective of us are trying to heal from old wounds and expectations of what society thinks a woman should be. Especially when it is hinted around raising kids and being in heterosexual relationships. Most of the men that don’t know how to identify love lack in their feminine energy department. Why because when most men hear the term feminine, they automatically go to justifying their sexuality. When its isn’t about that.

Lesson for the men to identify with your feminine energy is to go back on the ways your mother, grandmother, or an elder loved and showed you how to love yourself. And when I say loved you, I don’t mean a parent enabling bad behavior because you were to become a man. I mean the ways they taught you how to take of care yourself first and then others. To not become consumed with the societal standards of what a man should be.

When you can unpack that consciously and live that out unbiasedly then my child you have mastered your feminine energy. Most men don’t even know they have feminine energy because they think bad attitudes, moodiness, and being overly aggressive is considered to be manly. No, it’s not why you think straight women are quick to call a straight man gay. To be able to be in tune with your emotions and to show love outside of money and possessions is feminine energy.

It is the ability to care for someone outside of possessiveness, it is a long-lasting care that is willing to be submissive to the art of love and to not dictate how it should be played out. Masculine energy is the ability to make conscious decisions. That is the leadership quality that most men lack in the relationship department. This is okay I believe there can only be one dominant person in the relationship, and it doesn’t have to be gender defined.

Now that I have gave you some tips watch and pay attention please sir.

As we move forward in this day and age women think that being overly emotional is the way to be a woman. No ma’am it is emotionally manipulative and misleading to people. If you were raised around someone who is like this, you either do it to others or are attracted to people who act like this and don’t even know why.

One because you barely process your own emotions because to be a woman is to be strong. For me, the word strong is distasteful.

Here’s why because back then women weren’t strong, they were silent and meek because they feared being left alone and when I say left alone, I don’t mean from a man. I mean to color outside the lines of normal of putting up and putting on for other people. I think the problem with the collective is that we can’t be ourselves. Because we have been taught that being vulnerable it to show emotions. Chile that’s how narcissistic individuals rain in this economy.

Because we don’t even know our own weaknesses and this how other people who pretend to have good intentions i.e. women and men can manipulate you into thinking certain things is good for you. Now let’s get back to, the overly emotional because that term can be overplayed to because you can be bothering someone, and they can continuously tell you that it hurts them.

But because society always labels women and feminine energy to be erratic. We chalk up things people feel because we barely care about our own feelings.

To be in authentic feminine energy isn’t to be needy all the time. Always wanting attention and being in someone face that isn’t feminine energy baby that is insecure and entitled. But if you like that scroll pass this. We as collective can’t build trust with people because we barely work on our emotional state. So, we rely on others to verify and check how we feel before we do. Majority of us do this because women over the ages of time were taught to do so.

One because of the power men had and appeasing a man to provide for everything was the way to be.

So, over time we seen our ancestors accepting bad behavior from men and so we ended up following suit when we want things to go our way. Creating the domino effect of things in our lives. Ostracizing daughters from mothers and generations of hurt to come with the process. And why when we describe feminine energy men always think its suppose to be a cook, cleaner, a parent, a home maker, or a damn fool.

I mean to me that is weird as hell. You have these post about being a man’s peace but how if you don’t know how to. Peace is and internal job that we have to work at. It doesn’t come from the outside world it comes from within. Why do you think we see the collective of people hopping from one place to another? Most would say its money and I beg to differ because they are looking for home.

So sometimes they could end up in someone else’s, bed, mind, or heart but never being satisfied. Because they haven’t found a way to be vulnerable. The new age feminine energy thinks that being bratty all the time is cute. Hey, its men out here that like that but sweets you gone have to find them. So, if you are waiting on God to send you a man child you just gone take them lessons from them so call no good ass men you keep meeting.

Because that ain’t what you want so God trying to teach you how to get what you need.

Every fool got something they can teach you. It’s just do, you want to signup for the lesson that come with them? Okay let’s get back on track we have seen men put up with so much emotional abuse from women that we think it is okay and the same for women as well. The way we as women avoid our own intuition in the most times of need is uncanny. I sit back and think to myself damn, B**** what was you doing?

Baby when you think you know, and you don’t is the most messed up thing you can do to yourself as a woman.

See we woman go against the grain because by us being emotional beings’ people can tell us something with emotional words that we second guess ourselves for the sake of love. By us being the creators, we resist our own thoughts and emotions because we store so much of what others expect us to be. So, by the time we finally get the strength to go after what it is, we need we are too emotionally exhausted to be present for what it is we worked so hard.

Have you ever seen a woman work so hard to change a man that when he finally becomes the person, she needs him to be she is officially disgusted, turned off, or done with him! That she can no longer exist in the relationship. Society would call her dumb for wanting to leave but nobody stopped to ask her why she is doing so much for somebody else instead of herself.

I’ll tell you why old, aged programming. Because I watched my grandma get up at the crack of dawn, to cook, clean, baby sit, go to church, and tend to everybody else problems instead of her own. Why you think your family is shambles now. Granny didn’t have time to work on the healing process because she was to busy taking care of everybody else. So, what we as women do, raise our kids independently or with the father of your child.

Why do you think you can’t fit in with the other girls? Because you are so focused on standing out that yall both are actually one and the same. One wanting to appeal like they are feminine energy and the other is exuding hers through her body. So, the next time you find yourself wondering why nobody isn’t honoring you ask yourself do you even know how?

Because when you do you don’t have to tell everyone you met you show them through your words and actions. You don’t demand people to be something you are not, and you don’t treat them as if they placed the pain of the world on your shoulders. You accept who you are, your change, and embrace all of your flaws. And that’s how you change your expectations of what you define yourself to be as a WOMAN!

Men every woman isn’t going to be your mama! That pain she endured ain’t gone be the same pain some other woman is going to take on. Stop defining women by what she can put up with or how much she can take on for as pressure. Because when she leaves, or you met one that pretends well you gone have hell on your hands trying to get her out your life. Same for women as well. Be vigilant and alert.

PETER5:8