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From Boys To Men

Okay so earlier this week I said I was going to write a blog post about men being more emotionally weak that it cripples them psychologically. Now people who have sons and if you have raised sons hold your mule before you get all mama bear on me. Because women sometimes tend to underestimate their ability in raising their sons. Just like they say sons need their fathers they actually need their mothers too.

The only reason this came about for me was seeing how men play with women feelings to get the things they want, baby they had to learn that from somewhere. And don’t say he didn’t get it from you because if he didn’t his father learned it from his mother. In a blog post I wrote a while back I said that shouldn’t no child be around they mama all the time them kids need to get away from them. Especially when the parent is a single parent who is emotionally unstable and when I say unstable that is not equated to mental illnesses. This goes for y’all two parent household situation too.

When I talk about someone who is emotionally mature I mean someone who has mastered their emotions on how they handle things, it’s not like they always going through then seven seasons. Hell, all your baby mama be wanting from you is to just come pick them kids up and drop them back off a little later. But the fact that piss poor communication is a factor, still harboring who cheated on you, and the lack of boundaries in y’all have in your relationship surely does kill me. Talking about they want what’s best for the child, but the child still seems to be lacking in life.

Don’t get me started just let me do my thang over here. A couple of years ago we did the Men’s year it is where we talked about experiences we have had with men and the effect they have on us. We talked about how they perceive us as women no matter your sexuality and how gender roles and hyper masculinity and femininity was at play. Don’t ask me to do it again because I’ll rather bath a wild cat than to do that.

It wasn’t bad I wasn’t male bashing at least not all the time, but it was pretty insightful. Because the whole take away was to see that you are more than money, dick, stability, and manly man.

As the number two’s scroll its ass on by walking like the bad b**** she is its got people thinking about relationships. I don’t know if it COVID or divine playing treats on us or some people are seriously looking for more out of life. At some point halfway through this post you are looking for some type of commitment, arrangement, or love in life. If not welcome to the DARK SIDE BABY! COLD HEARTED SINGLES THAT STILL BELIEVE IN LOVE LET’S HUDDLE UP! IT’S OUR TIME TO SHINE.

A lot of women who are in relationships and that are looking for love struggle with opening up about their past because they fear being judged, rejected, and deemed unlovable by men due to shattering their narrative they have of the woman they are today. A lot of men fail to recognize that half of the problems that go in their relationships, marriage, or arrangements is because they lack emotional intelligence. Nobody didn’t say that you didn’t have empathy, but emotional maturity is whole anther ballpark.

The way society has put men on pedestal thinking that they are Gods greatest gift to earth and that women are second and have no power is downright crazy to me. Have you not seen a two females fall out or the envy that resides in them to get them to do some foul s***. Baby ain’t sh** about that weak. It’s ruthless and disgusting.