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Falling Out With A Friend

It’s a shame a friendship breakup will hit you harder than a actual break up. I mean seriously losing the love of your life to someone else is a game changer, but the friend who shoulder you cry on after a heartbreak is equally important. People would say they have different views on it, but the fact that relationships and marriages lack friendships is the number one reason why people are comfortable sharing things with other people than their person.

Society tells us we are supposed to be perfect so in the eyes of love the chemistry you have with one person doesn’t out weight the friendship you have with someone else. But what happens when you don’t have in it your lover? The value is shifted into another person that ends up causing some breakdown in the commit you already have. Cause y’all gone act y’all friends be easy to get along with and skip over the fact your friend sucks at choosing the right person.

I mean it’s cool and all but after a while you feel like you have to protect them from the mistakes they make or bound to make because your role of love in the relationships shows up as a concerned parent. And in the words of me tell a grown person what to do watch them do the opposite or do it to spite you so you’ll never ask them again. Side eyes stares while typing.

But this blog ain’t about that it’s about something else. I think the actual parts that kill a relationship between two people who once well acquainted is the fact they do stuff for a period of time that pushes them to be enemies. Meaning that instead of emotionally identifying the red flags in the beginning we push those little behaviors away because unlike our lover we don’t have to be around them every day. So, no matter how bad they piss you off the days you spend away from them you rarely address what made you say I’m not going to talk to them anymore.

I told y’all the inner child process is about a lot of things and that’s has something to do with the friendships you make in life. The clicks you align with, the place you go and the people you expect to meet, and the energy you need to feel that the connection is alive. Friendship isn’t just laughs and giggles. Sometimes it’s heartache, pain, loss, elevation, loss of communication, and going period of time discovering life without them.

Why is that the people we claim that we once loved so much or gave so much support too are the ones we treat so badly when all we crave is another chance to make things right? Why is it easily accepted to harm, betray, and ill mouth the ones we once loved? The young folks call it fake and fail to make connections in this new era because they’ll rather die alone than to be talked about. Or lose themselves in meaningless connections because they fail to make a stance on the unfairness of how people treat you.

Now I have had my fair share of breakups with friends you know one with Bluetooth but child she was kind of self-absorbed and I knew that, but didn’t value me enough to change the direction of our relationship. Child, it got so bad that Divine had to throw a monkey wrench in the relationship because I was more loyal to her than she was to me. Child, to be friends with someone and have them kiki with people behind your back and slandering you while smiling in your face is a skill that many have mastered.

It’s funny how when them tables turn they always will find away to come back to make amends when they life ain’t going right. When I say right I’m not talking about money child. It could be love, deat