Emotional Honesty

EMOTIONAL HONESTY:

For those of you that aren’t familiar with tarot the 7 of swords has been coming out a lot. That card usually appears when someone is hiding, lying, or trying to escape some form of truth. But the problem that seems to be never addressed is how someone choose to make a decision to go against you. If you were doing is this my person, friend, or does this person has my best interest just take that ass a HELL NO! Just pack up your bags and get the hell on.

As the year ends, we are now self-reflecting on how the year took a toll on us on mentally, spiritually, psychically, and emotionally. And with that we seen the year expose some of our own worst human behaviors. That left us plagued with the idea of should I stay the same or change the direction of course in my life. As the New Year approaches, we all want to set new goals to become a better version of our selves which I am totally for.

The latter of that is because sometimes we work so hard on change that we rarely notice that it is time to change our environment, friends, who we interact with, careers, and values. But the problem is we lie to ourselves thinking that certain people, places, and things will always be apart of our journey. But sometimes that honesty just doesn’t go over right with certain people so well. Because sometimes people forget that intentions are the main cause for the emotional outcome.

As the end of year approaches a lot of the collective is grieving because its certain parts of them, they can get back or change the things that was already done. It’s like deciding to go in for a boob job and you come out with a bbl, and no boobs. O my would some be pissed while on the opposing side someone else would be happy with the outcome.

The funny thing I’ve noticed when it comes to emotional honesty and accountability people don’t seem to take on that trait well. Because it’s always the opposing side giving off sympathy or their point of view keeping people stagnant and stuck in a one-sided emotion. So, when it comes to understanding other people feelings and even your own you sometimes walk a blurred line.

So, buckle up and enjoy this read because it’s about to take a turn.

REKINDLING OLD FLAMES AND APOLOGIZING FOR WRONG BEHAVIOR

Majority of the people that ask for my opinion or my eyes on certain matters sometimes forget that I am not them and they are not me. So, when it comes to wrong behavior, emotional transgression, and emotional invalidation they be prepared for me to reason with their ideal of logic. When I truly don’t not, I do not say that they are wrong because sometimes they are one sided and preferably close minded at times! YES

So, majority of my readings and messages have been about people wanting to rekindle flames with certain individuals and acting as if nothing ever happened. While the other is looking for closure and ready to move upon a new chapter in their life. Now I am fine with both but what causes confusion for the collective and others is because they don’t even know why they want it.

Some people just think this will give them some emotional pardon or to free them the responsibility for doing the work. Because like many humans we have been taught that apologizing when being wrong is changed behavior. You don’t know the countless of tweets I have seen where people say, and apology doesn’t come with changed behavior. And child they are true because they once were naïve or vulnerable to think that everything was going to return to its same state because they apologized for their wrong doings.

A lot of times when people apologize, they don’t even go into the reason of why they did what they did or value a person emotions. It’s because guilt plagues them with the things they have done, or their rights have been taking away from something.

Ex: You and friend fall out and because you don’t talk to them no more, they remove you from the V.I.P. list. So, you can’t go into the club getting the same treatment you once had. Now was they petty yes, but you were equally as petty to show up and to think they gone let you in. So, after a while without you having access to something you apologize because you think that is the right thing to do. But not recognizing that the apology wasn’t genuine it only was because you wanted access to something.

I mean the real issue should’ve been addressed with why you were removed and how they valued you as a person. Was it one sided before or you were reaping many benefits that when they stopped, they became the intolerable person they once were? They always say a drunk mind speak sober thoughts and also an angry heart speaks many truths that has been suppressed for the right moment.

So, if these two people were to sit down and have and honest conversation it would have to start with their expectation that they were expecting of each other in their life. The more I grow into life I realize a lot of information we weren’t taught as children and young adults really stunted us as adults and shape us into the beings we are today.

While some of us are stuck in old paradigms thinking that certain behavior traits and intolerable behavior is cute. Yikes! Just because certain people put up with certain things don’t mean everybody will and sometimes you want figure that out until someone you value don’t. And like most they only try to return these relationships because of the person ability to stay steady in their journey called life. This why the word karmic is trending and overused in most cases because certain things come back into your life to see if you learned your lesson.

Like many people that are human that crave and wait for someone to change they also damage themselves in the process because they forget to live their life as well. And that can be equally as damaging because you can damage others as well because of your inability to open up to the idea of new people because you expect them to be someone they not.

I mean that’s why lowkey the collective of people be wanting that apology or second chance at something because you know unknown can seem far more dangerous than the routine you have in life. So, if you are in place that requires you to be alone honor that season because it’s something more valuable to be learned about you before you go sharing that with other people.

As we close this out, I bet you were wanting this read to be about someone being honest about the wrong they have done only for me to hit on topics we should be honest about. One time for my brain being on some cryptic shit at times. Muahhaha (inserts evil laugh)

Y’ALL BE GOOD NA! BECAUSE I’M REALLY GOING TO BREAK THIS TOPIC DOWN JUST GIVE ME SOME SUGGESTIONS AND WE CAN DO THEM BY PARTS. DON’T BE PCIKING NO HARD STUFF BECAUSE I WILL FLAT OUT SAY NO!

BECAUSE AS WE SELF REFLECT THAT INNER CHILD TOOK ME MONTHS TO GET OUT! SOBE FAIR NOW!

TATATA!